What is Your Love Language and How Can you Better Love Yourself?

Written By Shawn Blue

Gary Chapman has created a book series and skill building program based on a concept of 5 love languages and provides insight on how we can better express our love to others.  There are multiple populations that the 5 Love Languages focus on including singles, couples, parents, children as well as in the workplace and the military. 

As we are about to exit out of February, I invite you to focus on shifting the focus of the 5 languages inward by nurturing self-love.  The Five Love Languages include:   Acts of Service, Quality Time, Giving gifts, Physical Touch, and Words of Affirmation.

Take a moment and consider how to use the 5 Love Languages in nurturing your self-love.  If you do not already know your love language, follow the link below to take the quiz.  Once you know your top love language(s) reflect on how you can incorporate the following behaviors in your daily schedule.

If your love language is Acts of Service:

  • Set up/purchase a service system (order groceries to be delivered to your home; choose a dry cleaning service that will pick up and drop off your items; select a car detailing company that will come to your home).

If your love language is Quality Time:

  • Schedule personal or “me” time for yourself.

If your love language is Giving gifts:

  • Begin identifying gifts that you would like to get for yourself and reward yourself by getting a gift off of your list.

  • Set up a gift subscription that will come to you in the mail (i.e., flowers, specialized subscription box).

If your love language is Physical Touch:

  • Schedule a massage.

  • Ask for a hug from a friend.

  • Use a weighted blanket to mimic a hug or feeling contained.

If your love language is Words of Affirmation:

  • Write yourself a loving message, card or letter.

  • Write yourself an encouraging pep talk.

  • Collect others’ messages and notes and put them in one place (i.e., journal, online, in your phone).

 There are multiple ways to focus on self-love. Choose the one that is most meaningful for you!

Refer to the 5 Love Languages® website and/or official online quiz/assessment/profile (i.e., couples, singles, teens, children) at 5lovelanguages.com.

Shawn Blue
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